Steve Harvey Isn't Completely Correct!!

Steve Harvey says "Act like a lady, Think like a man". In thinking like a man, it's a great thing to understand the other side. What better way to make a relationship work, than to understand what you're "up against" so to speak. The question is, will that man take the time to get to understand you? Will he bend his wants or expectations or remain steadfast in his, knowing that you'll understand and accept all of his shortcomings?

I watched Steve Harvey on Oprah and I have never seen women so captivated, while a man explained to them how to treat the next man since I watched a pastor do it. It was great advice, but was very one sided!! (This coming from a man) Women know some things coming into a relationship. Women know men. Whether they heard it on TV, from a parent (mother or father), relative or girlfriend. They know some men can seem cold because we don't communicate, men can be impatient, and some may not practice chivalry to name a few of our flaws. With this knowledge available to women, who makes it available to men that these things aren't necessarily the way to be. Why do we not attempt to make men more accountable for their "ways" instead of giving them the hope that they'll find a woman who may have read this book or one similar to it, that is willing to accept them.

I'm not opposed to what Steve says, just opposed to hearing that my daughters have to settle for what a man "is". We all have to change and evolve to bring two entities together as one. But if one side changes and the other one doesn't, the resentment will grow like mold and eventually spell the end of that union whether it's 4 months, 40 years later.

It doesn't make you less of a man to think like a woman or put yourself in her shoes. It makes you considerate and more of a commodity. Being selfish is great and necessary, being selfless is admirable. Being one without the other makes you miserable